Writing A Eulogy

INTRODUCTION
Writing and giving a eulogy is a praiseworthy action and a very important contribution to a memorial service.  This contribution will be remembered by friends and family for a very long time, so feel honored about your participation in this difficult event. 

Writing the eulogy feels like an overwhelming task, especially in your current emotional state.  You may have difficulty concentrating or maintaining your composure during this process.  THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL.  Stop and take a few moments for yourself, and remember that you can write and deliver a great eulogy.  All you have to do is follow the instructions in the remainder of this guideline, and you will give a touching eulogy.

Right now, try and keep a positive attitude.  Remember that everybody at the service will be behind you completely.  Do not be concerned about giving the perfect eulogy.  Do what you can given the short time frame and fragility of your well being.  Again, this is an emotionally challenging time for you.  Nobody expects you to have great stage presence, or be an amazing orator.  JUST BE YOURSELF, TAKE YOUR TIME, AND CONVEY YOUR FEELINGS FOR YOUR LOST LOVED ONE.  The most touching eulogies convey your emotions and your feelings.  They are not a summary of the person’s life story.

FIRST THINGS FIRST
Before writing the eulogy, it is important to overcome your feelings of fear.  You have many confusing questions running through your mind:  “What do I say?”  “Will people like it?”  “How long will it be?”  “Where do I even begin?”  These questions will be answered for you in this guide.  The important thing for you to do is put your fears aside and break everything down into small pieces.  Remember that you eat the elephant in many small portions, not just one bite.  Nothing great is done in one sitting.